We all battle the evil side inside us and the forces between good and evil and throw us into dilemma, which way is right? Which way is wrong?
These feelings haunt us through out the life and at every walk of life, the more good we do, the more worse situation we go in. In the end, Ravan reaps all the benefits and Ram has to lose his wife and children.
When we plunge deeper into Ramayana, not the Ramanand Sagar Ramayana, but the actual story, we find that Ravan was never the evil one, he also juggled between the forces of good and evil. He did succumb to the darker side, when his sister was humiliated by Lakshman. But, still Ravan never forced himself on Sita, even if he fancied her like crazy, which tells us, he was good. Or was he?
What happen to, in Rome, do the Romans?
Had he managed to handle the situation decently and properly, his dear brother's dear wife would never be kidnapped. Did he accept this later? No sir, he did not. Hence he was a Ravan.
Hanuman had a Ravan in him too, he entered Lanka and burned the place down to satisfy his own ego. Ram had already pronounced a war on Ravan, entering the enemy territory and burning the place down is not ethical in any military doctrine. Hence Hanuman also was the Ravan in the story.
Then we come to Ram, he is the only person who has no Ravan in him and hence he suffered the most. He completely obeyed his father, left his kingdom to stay in the jungle, he then saw his wife getting kidnapped by Ravan, waged a war against him, defeated him and won the wife back. But all that was waste, because when the time came in the full court house, he had a brief moment of choosing between good and evil, in the court. He could ask the dhobi to shove it up and accept his wife. But was that good or bad?
He left his wife, was it Good or bad?
So you see everyone has a Ravan inside you, maybe except Ram, but then isn't Ram the one who loses everything? So is being Ram worth the risk?
You may never answer these questions, because some answers are meant to be personal, keep them with you.
My answer is seen in my signature thought.